Originally Posted By: luvless

You cannot change agreements when the person refuses to talk to you.


Sure you can.

You can decide for yourself what behavior you will accept from your spouse; it just won't impact them until they do talk to you.

Boundaries are agreements; they can choose to accept the terms, or reject them and face the consequences you have set forth.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."