That is true Luv, but you can create a lot of change by working on yourself... that does impact him as well... he just won't know it right away. Focusing on you is good for you, helps you be a better person no matter what the outcome of your M is, and sometimes... just sometimes... it gets the WAS's attention and creates some turn around in the M.
Bottom line... you have NO control over your H and the choices he is making. You only have control over YOU and so that is where to focus your energy.
Work on self care. I lost 40 lbs during my sitch and am only now starting to sleep well since April. If you need to take sleep meds for awhile (I did) it helps. Be loving to yourself. You are worth it! Hugs! Rocked
