I thought the ow was out of the pic completely before I ever came to piecing or divorce busting... I had gotten phone calls saying from a h that my H and his w were having an affair. Her name is Suzanne. Her H says there were phone calls going back and forth between our homes particularly while I was away in NY last May and June and that my H and his w were meeting in Anchorage. Their last name was mentioned on the cell phone call....when I called back to see where H was calling from by the woman who answered...the cell phone Now says it is an Amy's phone...no longer is it BJ Lift Truck or whatever it had said after the second time I called..it's all lies, deceit and BS...am sick and tired of it....am going to not sleep sexually with H but get through holidays as best I can and then seek out an attorney's advice and help to get out of this. I could forgive infidelity...but can not work with the dishonesty and the lies...he is not willing to even admit something is going on and wants me to think I am crazy. I am tired of the crazymaking behaviour. It's abusive. I am ok. I am sober. I am a bit sad, angry, and feel violated...but am going to be all right. Divorce busting works....just not for everyone. It has raised my self esteem however and helped me to see that helping others is a great thing and that I don't have to live in pain...I have choices today.
