NC, I do understand how you're feeling. I do try to always do business-like, polite, detached communications to X and just about the kids. I have to say the nasty-grams continue now just as they did for the past few years though. I think it's hard for people to understand, b/c if you have a normal person and you treat them politely, they don't treat you with constant anger and contempt. These aren't normal people, but I believe have some mental issues. So what's the answer, I don't know. I like Dday's suggested email, but personally I wouldn't put anything admitting to possible wrongdoing in print to her. I think any email I send could show up in a court of law, and am always aware of that.
I do think we need some kind of book like DBing with crazy people or something like that....
NC, I do think you shouldn't say anything more negative about your XW and OM or ask them questions. Believe me, I know how hard that can be with dealing with such a person. But best for your kids. I think they already know your feelings anyway. I mean you can't do anything about your MIL, just your own actions and focus on those.
