Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

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Why can't I just tell him I went to a wine tasting party with new friends?

Because then he knows you went to a wine tasting party with friends.

Isn't that still intriguing?

No. What's intriguing is that he doesn't know where you went. There is no intrigue when you know the answer!

Men were there!

Yeah, but it was WINE TASTING. Not a full Roman orgy. What is going to make him more jealous - you going to a wine tasting event or a Roman orgy? Okay, I get that these are a little extreme but you know what I mean.

If it were me, I would still be curious if he went to a party.

Of course you would. But you'd then say 'it was only a wine tasting party, what happens at those'. You'd be curious about what wine he tasted and if he had a nice time. If you didn't know where he'd went you'd be curious about where he went, who he went with, were there women there, did he like any of them, why didn't he take me ....

It wouldn't be as threatening as a date but I would know he is meeting new people maybe flirting with women and having fun.

I have to be honest. I've never been to a wine tasting but can you really feel threatened by your spouse going to one?

Put these in order of threatening - wine tasting - out with the boys - off to a strip club - off to a roman orgy - off to Salsa ...

It's actually irrelevant as the answer is his imagination. His imagination will do a much better job worrying him than you ever will.

See your previous post - your imagination has you worried about the D and all he did was send you a text!