Here's something TrentC put up... some quotes from our host... pretty much sums up what I've been trying to drill into that stubborn head of yours:

"Marriages are rebuilt when the person most interested in making things better stops pointing fingers & starts taking productive action." --MWD

"You most certainly can change other people, but you must begin by changing your own actions first." --MWD

"When things aren't going well, we spend far too much time over analyzing & finding fault instead of finding creative solutions" --MWD