how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Thanks for the input.

I decided my 180 would be this: when we met for bills in October, it was at the house. I was very bustling around, very cheery, maybe playing "hostess" in his own house? Kept offering him a beer as he was drinking coffee and things were getting tenser and tenser.

So, now he may be angry that I suggested meeting elsewhere. But it is HIS 180 to let me know how he feels. (thus the collapse of our relationship)

So tonight I will be quieter, more subdued. We did have those pleasant friendly email exchanges, and I would want the atmosphere to be more like that. Trying to go for sweeter and lower-key. Not the happy hostess.

I will look good; take my anti-anxiety meds. I will think sexy loving thoughts when I look at him. We will sit next to each other to look at the computer screens, so that is easy.

Cutterbug, I appreciate the advice that all this agita may not be worth it, but it is joint financial responsibility, and my only chance to see him. I have plans for drinks immediately afterwards, so I will have company to get me through the aftermath.

I will let you know how it goes!