Well, all I'm saying is that some way somehow there has to be a better way to communicate. As hostile as my XW got sometimes, I did my best to shield the kids. It's bad enough that their family is torn up, but to see or know of all the constant hostilities is just sadning.

Ultimately I'd just tell her, look this isn't an attempt to get us together or anything, we just need to be better with one another for our s's sake.

But apparently for your sitch, NC might just be the best route, all this hostility just isn't healthy for anyone.

I understand about S8, as I've said, my S12 has similar issues, and it took some time to get it through to him, but we finally developed a system.


Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11