The continuing saga of P ...

[newmama]

I know some people have been here for 6-30 months GALing, DBing, 180's etc. what keeps these guys going during these times of hopelessness.

For me and probably others, the hope comes from reading other success stories and knowing that most As end (do not lead to marriage), that the WSs realize they were lost and made a mistake. 6 mo-18 months is average length of affairs. My SIL and my husband's exW are 2 personal examples of the WS ending the A and regretting it. But ideally, the GAL and 180s are supposed to help us be distracted while the WSs go on their stupid journey.

I mean they must see some positives every now and then to let the know that hope is still there. I have seen nothing at all.

She HAS tried to contact you! You have been excellent at not responding! 1 month of NC is only a start.She is fully in the A--that's what WSs do when they are separated from us.

And remember, most BSs would have started to file by now which is totally understandable. But we all here are entering the unknown...what if we don't file for D and implement these techniques? Some BSs may be happy they filed but those that aren't happy will never know what could have happened if they just GAL'D and detached for awhile. This is painful and not for the faint of heart!

Remember, it's the holidays and it will make us all more emotional. ((P17))