Coach, there is no "secret technique". Bits and pieces are spattered all over the board.
For the past three months I've been mining the tactical nuggets found in others situations. It took me a while to recover after the bomb and making the same mistakes every one does.
When I did I saw the situation for what it was ... a war of the minds. I set out the following tasks. Some running concurrent
Lawyer up, prepare for a nasty divorce and protect my ass-ets.
Face the worst that could happen (My marriage is dead and I've lost twelve years of my life.)2) Lie low and wait, monitor the "enemy" and gather information
Build my resources and research alternatives solutions
Take the laundry list and work on it to improve myself.
Observe the "enemy" and identify weak spots.
Discover if there is infidelity. If there is GAME OVER.
Identify spies and people of influence in W's camp.
Keep my cards hidden at all times. The left hand must not know what the right hand is doing.
Plan my attack and execute
With that in mind, I've hinted subtly here and there... Mrs Gno is going to face the sum of all fears if she continues down this path and does not withdraw her forces.
Loss of her lifestyle as she knows it
Sense of security
Financial support
Loss of her H and friend (already almost gone)
Loss of stability
Test of her "moral support" structure (which will fail)
While battles are lost or won in the field, but wars are settle with diplomacy. The grim picture I'm busy painting is my last resort for her to get her head out of the ground. Reality sucks.
