I understand your feelings here but you aren't validating her. You need to change and model great communication for her. Never/always/nobody/everybody/ etc are all signs of pessismisitc thinking ("Learned Optimism - Seligman.)
"I understand you don't think I listen. I will not let you characterise it as "Never" that is not fair to me. Since I responded it proves I listened it just wasn't what you needed at the time. I want to solve this problem because I love you. How can I help show you I am listening so that you feel "heard" ?"
Lead, it's what she wants.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
