Yes, he wants to save the M, desperately. Has begged and pleaded and sworn it won't happen ever again. I want to save it for my kids, but am having difficulty trusting since this isn't the first time he has lied to me. The 5 year R w/ his Ex gf (actually they were engaged for awhile, she was his first true love) was many years ago, maybe 7 years ago I'd say. I was a member here during a break up previously from another BF, before I met him. I remembered this place from during that time and came back here. BTW, he is not bio dad to my oldest, but is to my youngest. He is "dad" though to my son - been around since he was 5 months old.
He lied to me several years ago and I told him I have a very difficult time trusting after lies. We were just recently living together at the time. He had lied about smoking pot, told me he had quit but then lied about working late to go get some and smoke it. When I caught him not working late, he first lied and said he went looking at engagement rings as a surprise. Then finally confessed later as that was total bullcrap. This was a big deal to me and I made him promise to never ever lie again - that we can get through anything as long as we trust each other but that cannot happen if I feel like he is going to lie to get out of trouble.
This same ex gf has texted him before, but it never went further than a few texts to catch up and he always told me about it. I was always fine with it and understood. One time she even stopped by my house when he was home during the day and I wasn't, that really peeved me! Allegedly, they never went inside he said he was outside cleaning the garage and she pulled up.
BTW, he was my neighbor, and he said she went driving by looking his old house for his car in his driveway but then saw his car at the next house over. That is how she found him when he moved in with me. (I owned my own home but he rented, so he ended up moving in with me) Hope that isn't confusing!
There have been other minor incidences but I always blown them off since there was never a smoking gun that he did anything beyond talk. Now I am not so sure.