Still Wandering

[NOMAD]

In reviewing the past history of our relationship and marriage during MC, I guess I missed class, didn't pay attention, was stupid or just forgot about some of the critical facts. I want to send this e-mail to Mrs. NOMAD and the MC for clarifications and establish a basis for future discussions.

Any comments or recommendations?

Mrs. NOMAD-

With all due respect, during our MC, I take serious exception to your default response of “SEE, HE NEVER LISTENS” whenever we reach a point of disconnection,failure to communicate or recollection of the past. I find this statement highly disrespectful and naive on your part and will no longer accept it as a reasonable reply in future discussions.

Please always remember and fully accept the fact that I am from Mars and you are from Venus, we have not, do not and will never speak the same language. Also, as a woman, your ability to retain and recall information from the past is acutely superior to mine, as a man, and I will never challenge that fact. Our attempts to change this in the past has caused serious damage and harm to our marriage and relationship. I hope we can both strive to better understand and interpret each other’s intentions and desires in the future.

When we reach these junctures in the future, can we please consider other possibilities for the disconnection, such as:

• Your statement may not have been audible and clearly received by me due to a physical separation or obstruction such as a wall or door between us.
• Your statement was combined with other topics or information and was not received by me as distinctly as you intended.
• Due to the situation there may have been distractions that reduced the importance of your statement and the need to store it for future retrieval.
• You fully intended to communicate the information, but never did, and eventually you came to believe that it was communicated at some point in the past.
• The discussion or information has become part of the re-writing of the history of our relationship, that you have so actively been involved with in the past year.
• I just flat out forgot about the original discussion because I’m a man from Mars.

As we have both learned, validation is the key to successful communication, especially when dealing with critical and sensitive information.

Loving Regards,
Mr. NOMAD