Call me crazy, but let me ask one thing (2 actually):

Has your L ever asked, or especially conintually asked if D was what you want? And your answer?

Undoubtedly your H's L has done the same, and in his heart of hearts, what do you think his answer was?

Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11