I hope WAW witnesses or hears word of my social plans with <Bonnie>.
WAW brought up the Christmas platter gift thing last night on the phone. I asked if she received my reply text. She spent minutes explaining why she did it. I gently but clearly told her it is my intent not to do anything joint with her related to Christmas.
WAW is very nervous all the time now when talking with me. It makes me more calm and rational when we talk. I say so many please's and thank you's I feel like a fraud.
Every conversation is Mars and Venus.
Divorce mediation scheduled for 5 pm today. The WAW I will be divorcing is a wholly different W than the one I married 16 years ago.
I am going to go for primary custodial parent of our S4 and S7 as a shot across WAW's bow. I have the house, health insurance, and job. She offers none of those things for my boys.
I have moved on emotionally. At one time, I planned to tell her that the door is open for awhile yet, and that she would have a soft landing spot. Now, I'm not sure I should bother.
How do I treat WAW with grace and compassion during this mediation when she has exhibited neither to me for so many months?
Maybe the best thing to do is stay calm, say little except when necessary, and let my A drive the bus?
