I think you are doing fine and the best YOU can. This is a tough situation and nobody knows your W better than you. For now, I would just focus on getting along with her for your kids sake and try and be happy in your own life. If she is going to come back, she will. I know its hard and you want to edge the situation along but there isn't much you can do at this point. She wants her freedom, but I also notice she wants to dabble in family life too. That may be just to ease her guilty conscience.
I don't recommend finding a booty call either. I tried to date when exh and I were separated the first time (pre baby) and it was so mind messing. I was using a very nice person as a crutch to get over my exh. Didn't help me. In fact it made my pain worse.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
