Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

[sandi2]

I know this is a stretch but the more I realize how my Nice Guyness contributed to this problem the more confused I get as to how I should proceed. Of course, I still need to keep heading to a point of being ok without her in my life

I don't know that this is the best example to use.....but to try to get the picture in your mind.......think of it as if you were her teacher who was older and wiser. You must have her respect, right? So that means that you have to mean what you say.....and say what you mean. You must be firm with her......but you don't have to do it in an ugly way. You show stength and honor in your leadership....and as a man. However, you keep it strickly a teacher & student relationship. Most teenage girls have a least one crush on a male teacher. At least, they think it's a crush but it is really an attraction they feel toward the teacher b/c she like the attributes she sees in him. She's not mature enough to understand what she's feeling, but she is attracted to him. The same can be said about women and their male doctors, pastors, bosses, etc.

So, you don't act cold or mad. You talk sofly, yet firmly. Remember, you are the one in charge of the classroom.....not her. You can show a smile, and a positive attitude when possible.....but not if she's trying to play her female games on you. You are too wise for that! You stay one step ahead of her. You do not allow her to wrap you around her little finger. Even when you know you could melt if she touched you, you do not let her know that. You do not discuss a R between the two of you.