Unstoppable

[dday101798]

NCB,

Dude, honestly, I know you don't want to hear this, AGAIN, and I know you're journalizing here and venting, but seriously, you do have a very negative tone in your efforts and your response message is prime example of that. Be the bigger person NCB. If her only way to communicate now is with bitterness, shower your response with kindness.

So your response could have been "I'm terribly sorry, I did not realize my personal feelings were effecting our children. I will do my best to monitor my words and actions with them more closely from now on. Equally, I feel the same concern when they are with you and MIL and respectfully ask for the same".

I mean really, you two are just continually stoking the fire and making it hotter and hotter and just plain out uncomfrotable to not you only you two, but YOUR KIDS.

Lastly, I think I've mentioned this to you before, children of a D'd family will play both sides of the fence! I can't tell you how many times I had to suck up my pride and call up XW (with a tone as desribed above) to get to the bottm of some of there stories that needed to be verified and ended up being false.

You two may never be the best of friends again, but honestly, this crazy sh!t between you needs to cool out. So, as said, be the bigger person/parent and change up your tone. I'm certain the results and rewards of doing so shall make up for taking the bullet.

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And I KNOW I'VE said before, some issues you bring up here that you discuss with your S's is in my opinion inappropriate.