Maybe he meant it in a good way saying that he thinks about you? A positive thing. On the Christmas issue, I say don't punish him. Punishing to me seems like you are placing blame and holding a grudge. Do I think he is horrible for going with co-workers instead of his family? YES! But I truly believe natural consequences will happen and they are better than you doing anything because then he can't resent you more.
Like I said before. It will be horrible for H to find out how much fun you had, and the special moments he missed out on. He may not say it, but I am sure it bugs him. Those are his consequences. If he calls after Christmas and wants to do something, but you don't want to because you are still upset about him leaving then say no, not today, but be kind about it. He will realize on his own what he did (one day hopefully) without you saying a thing so that you are just focusing on having fun, and not on him.
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