New to the Divorce Situation

[DDogs]

GREEK:

C asked W where she was and she stated that she still feels the D is the right thing to do, that she feels the M is broken and not fixable. Her "head" tells her that this is the logical thing to do and her "heart" says she was scared, not of the D but, there are going to be severe negative consequences if this goes to D ... W:"I don't know whether I should just have the Lawyer go do it and get it done, or wait a year and still have the same outcome".. Could someone interpret this for me please!

My interpretation is she is not SURE of her decision to divorce you. Coach mentioned in his answer to you that she lacked hope. I agree - but more to the point with y'all - she lacks TRUST - in you - that the R will be different.

We left and W began talking in the parking lot about the upcoming weekend regarding the kids. Everytime we talk about the kids we can keep on talking. It's good productive conversation... we actually both laughed a bit and joked about the gifts we were getting each of them... I remebered I wanted to be the one to end the talk so I said goodbye, and I will check into a few things and see the kids this Sat. I was about to leave and W leaned in and kissed me goodbye...

She is NOT sure of her decision to end this marriage.

So now you have the herculean task of enforcing your boundaries while attracting your wife. Balance. It can be done.

Greek

I also forgot to mention that after that W stated her fears she also said afraid "of going on to the D and crashing and burning" (meaning W and I becoming unfriendly,angry, hostile, bitter,,etc)....

Would this also be considered unsure as to her decision? Sounds to me like W just wants this to end and everyone kiss and be happy afterwards without any problems whatsoever..

Opinion?