and since I've been on both sides, I'll answer why for myself.
because I wanted it to be my H that was doing all the things the OM was doing.
ST, YOU, REALLY? (SHOCK!)
Didn't know...
HUGS
yep. it was a long time ago, and of all people I never thought it would be ME. it was before we were M, and while we had been engaged for like 2 or 3 years..him living in OK with his mom, and me living in KS with mine along with our oldest. long story short, because I wasn't getting my needs met, and didn't know how to PROPERLY communicate that to H, I allowed OM to meet those needs. I never ever meant for it to happen but it did. as a christian, I am just baffled that I allowed myself to fall for that trap, but I was in a fog, and I was totally confused and hurt and all that. He never found out until he asked me about it the day he wanted me back. another long story, you'll have to ask me on FB if you'd like.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
