K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[K4D]

My new thread. The other one was getting a bit lenthy I guess.

Tonight I got a text from W asking if I was on my way to the karate thing. I replied yes. I got there and she texted me where she was. I did not ask. She just sent it to me. So I get inside and I see her and D7 sitting on the bleachers and them waiving to me to come over. So I did go sit by them. D7 sat between us again. From that point on W really didn't speak to me or look at me the rest of the evening.

D12 performed and got her gold belt. She did wonderful as did the rest of the kids in her class. I was very proud of her and told her.

We ended up leaving and going our separate ways. I hugged my girls good night and told them I love them and then told W to have a good evening as she was walking the other way. She said the same back and we parted ways. I am not sure why she wanted me to sit with them since she had nothing to say to me. But I played it cool. No biggie. It was D12's night and she did great.

SM,

D12 decided she wanted to do karate all on her own. It actually stunned me when she told me she signed up. I had no influence in that decision. She just likes it. And hey, it is a healthy thing anyways. They teach the kids discipline and self control. I think it is all good.

So tonight W calls me and needs to know what D7's homework is because apparently she left her homework sheet here. So I tell her what it is. Then W tells me that we need to work with D12 on communicating better to us about her homework because apparently she had a research paper she needed to do on the internet and didn't let either of us know. I agreed. Good enough. We both said good night.

I excercised tonight and I feel great. I have to start doing it again every day. It just really perks me up when I do.

ClingingToHope,

I don't actually see W that often. It has just been here lately with the birthday and holidays and kids events going on. Usually I don't see her except maybe 5 minutes a week when we exchange the kids.

KerryK, SG and everyone else, I am not going to go out and seek sex from someone. It would be what, an hour of fun and do nothing morally for me and my marriage.

Can't bring myself to do that one. Thanks for thinking of me though.

Kevin

[ppenton]

The LORD is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid? ~Psalm 27:1

K4D, as 25 has told you many times you cannot live in fear as it will paralyze you which you may have noticed today.

[K4D]

I think W is struggling, but coming around slowly. The thawing is happening. We will see what the rest of the holidays bring.

Kevin

[K4D]

The LORD is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid? ~Psalm 27:1

K4D, as 25 has told you many times you cannot live in fear as it will paralyze you which you may have noticed today.

I did seem to get gripped into a bit to much fear today. I had to much time on my hands and my mind waundered to much. I prefer to be busy at work so that doesn't happen.


Kevin

[ppenton]

So tonight W calls me and needs to know what D7's homework is because apparently she left her homework sheet here. So I tell her what it is. Then W tells me that we need to work with D12 on communicating better to us about her homework because apparently she had a research paper she needed to do on the internet and didn't let either of us know. I agreed. Good enough. We both said good night.
Kevin

K4D, you can contact your kids teachers to find out about homework assignments and let the teachers know to contact you with any issues which arise at school. Check to see if the school has a web site and see if the teachers post the homework assignments. And/or find out who your girls friends are and meet their parents, they can be a good resource for car pooling and finding about homework, etc…

[ClingingToHope]

I think W is struggling, but coming around slowly. The thawing is happening. We will see what the rest of the holidays bring.

Not to dampen your spirit, but you said W didn't have much to say to you tonight. What do you see that leads you to believe she is coming around slowly?

You are a little farther along than I am. I've been out seven months and I tend to convince myself it's a matter of time, it's a matter of time.

A friend of mine in Virginia, who got divorced a year ago, said even today when he sees his ex, he could pick out something if he really tried hard enough that would lead him to believe someday they'll reconcile.

He said it's a fool's game. Accept your life for what it is today and don't look so hard for clues. You'll most likely just hurt your own efforts at detaching.

I know the success stories on here give you, me, everyone hope. But there are thousands who disappear from the boards or move over to surviving the D.

The odds are against us.

[K4D]

K4D, you can contact your kids teachers to find out about homework assignments and let the teachers know to contact you with any issues which arise at school. Check to see if the school has a web site and see if the teachers post the homework assignments. And/or find out who your girls friends are and meet their parents, they can be a good resource for car pooling and finding about homework, etc

Thanks ppenton. Those are good ideas I had not thought of. I will do that.

Kevin

[K4D]

Not to dampen your spirit, but you said W didn't have much to say to you tonight. What do you see that leads you to believe she is coming around slowly?

You are a little farther along than I am. I've been out seven months and I tend to convince myself it's a matter of time, it's a matter of time.

A friend of mine in Virginia, who got divorced a year ago, said even today when he sees his ex, he could pick out something if he really tried hard enough that would lead him to believe someday they'll reconcile.

He said it's a fool's game. Accept your life for what it is today and don't look so hard for clues. You'll most likely just hurt your own efforts at detaching.

I know the success stories on here give you, me, everyone hope. But there are thousands who disappear from the boards or move over to surviving the D.

The odds are against us.

Just feeling good tonight ClingingToHope. True, nothing tonight led me to come to that conclusion. Just looking at how things have gone since the beginning of this month.

Yes, the odds are against us. But nothing is impossible.

Kevin

[jon2911]

KerryK, SG and everyone else, I am not going to go out and seek sex from someone. It would be what, an hour of fun and do nothing morally for me and my marriage.

AMEN!

That kind of talk is nowhere in any of MWD's material, has no place in divorce-busting, and doesn't belong on this forum.

I'm proud of you Kevin, you've stayed faithful, things are thawing off, you're becoming stronger. This thread is exhausting even to read. I would recommend you stop listening to anyone here who gives you advice like that. It's cool to journal, but you don't have to respond to everyone. That would be a great 180

I'm e-mailing you right now, let's get together.

[Steve McQueen]

define sex.

nevermind, Jon2911, what do you know about the population dynamics of rabbits and foxes?