So still thinking how to reply and I get this, "This is when we need to be able to communicate better. I have no problem not seeing anyone I would just like to know what you're talking about and boundaries... :-)".
I am glad when I wait around sometimes pondering how I should reply!
Well, that sounds promising, as long as she's willing to back it up and prove no-one else is in the picture, and sticking to it, then you are on your way.
And this also goes to show why you never respon to them right away.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Slow and easy I guess! Think I probably need to move to piecing before too long. Went to dinner with XW tonight and went to one store to watch her shop(rode with her in her new car the few hundred feet there). X is getting her gall bladder removed Friday.
Seems I could write a bunch but will just try to be quick. X asked when I would know about that house I put a bid on. Said Xmas eve and told a lil about my buying agents. Asked something about being excited to get it or not, I said at this point waiting and having another offer (somebody came in behind my and made cash offer for less, but is up to bank to decide, its a short sale), it doesnt matter if I get it. Later on X was starting to tear up and said "what if things work out between us, then what about that house?" I replied, "could rent it out like my other house", she smiled and said "guess I worry too much" so I changed subjects so she wouldnt get all emotional.
X brought up how should wants to start going back to church with the kids and would like me to join them. She mentioned something about doing stuff with the kids with me and I told her that is a BIG step, and she agreed and said little steps is what we need right now. She wants to get into a church she (well all of us) have been to before. Told me that she wants to do some classes. I had a feeling where X was going so I was like, o ya, what kind of classes? Said "bible class and they also have classes for families that might reunite one day, families that have had a divorce". I was like, hmmm, I see. I told her how the kids were Sheperds last Xmas and that was news to her. Said she wants to get into a church and do stuff like that.
Sooooo, guess all my hard work paid off a long time ago doing the things I needed to do. Was getting out of her car, and she said "give me a hug", no hesitation there! Call me X said. Texted a lil after that and X once again thanked me for dinner. She keeps trying to pay for dinner but I wont allow it! Oh, X did ask me if I knew this one gal at work. The name sounded familiar, and then it donned on me. X thought my 401k money would be there and has been dealing with my HR. HR is downtown about ten miles from the plant I work at so I dont deal with them on a daily basis. X needs to pay sales tax on cars and get plates on it, but was banking on that she said. Was no biggie tho.
X said a couple of times about vacuuming for her while she is down recovery this weekend. If I am right, that is to get me in her house to hang out prob, which I might do this weekend. Wanna be there for her and dont know what I can do for her. Her Mom and Dad pretty much got her covered (can I say her at least one more time)? Might step it up and get a lil something, maybe a flower or two and deliver it myself.
All and all, its all good.
that class had a name, and she said it, think its called "2nd Time Around", its for people that have been remarried! X has been doing some research!!! She hasnt begging me either! But did bring up this female friend of mine again and I assured her again that just friends and thats all it has every been.
That is awesome. I think she just may be coming 'round for ya.
Definately be there for her if it's comfortable.
Hope to see you piecing land. It's not easy, but if you have let go of all the past MR issues and closed them out with X, it's not all that hard, so far.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Dont know where he is at. X really didnt say anything about him, although I think there was a sarcastic comment that was directed toward him about someone misinformed her about cleaning her LCD tv with windex!
Did express the other day when playing email tag if she needed anything let me know. That was pretty vague so need to be more direct.
I had a feeling that X was going to throw out the idea of wanting me to be there on Xmas morning when the kids open presents since she was wanting me to go shopping with her and I know you cant expect things because you set yourself up for failure. Well, X never did ask and I didnt put that idea on the table and I am not upset about it. To me, thats a big step, and kids might take it the wrong way. X did mention that D once again talked about seeing Mommy and Daddy again at the same time. D also asked her knew my sister which would be D's aunt.
Few emails back and forth this morning so went out on a limb and said in the email "Wish I could be there for you tomorrow. If you can think of anything you need during your recovery (like vacuuming!) just let me know." and got I reply in her email with "I wish you could be there too. Maybe you can come by if not weird for you? haha like you would really come over and vacuum." Green light!
And we did talk about the kids a bit. X brought up while smiling about it how D has same stale breath when she wakes up in the morning as I used to have. Doesnt understand how it could smell exactly the same. Was just something funny X brought up and thought I would share.
So its Xmas Eve, and WOW is all I gotta say. OM crossed the line tonight big time. He owes me a mirror!!!
Didnt really do anything for X while she was laid up but did check on her via her mom and herself day of surgery and reiterated if needed anything, just call. Well, didnt get a call until Tues, and X was sobbing this and that about arrangement with the kids I thought since we had been texting and I thought all was good, but she was overwhelmed, having some post surgery allegric reactions and her mom watching the kids and taking care of her since I was on an overtime job.
Lil texting today and X asked me to lunch Sunday and I accepted. Also was asking to play some Wii when I dropped the kids off and I said I didnt know. Well, drop them off, car still running, sleet and snow coming down, wind blowing, X asked again, I said its kinda weird. Said that cause last week she used the same word about coming into her house and I have never been in since she has had it. Was her brothers house and was in it a couple years ago.
So anyways, I did, for an hour, and in that hour, somebody knocks on the door pretty hard. Guess I should have answered. X goes down and i can hear him say "whats going on" she says nothing. Nothing loud or I would have stepped in since my kids are there. So not soon after, I get ready to leave. Son upset and tells me he had a good time today with me this and that. Go out thru the garage, her trash is knock over in its container, I walk past and then think no I better pick it up. X helped and S was right there. We both know what happened but X throws out how windy it is. I get in car, check mirrors, Oh, one is missing and pushed in. Hmmmm, I get out go around and pick up the mirror glass still in one piece in the snow and say "tell him he owes me a mirror" nice and politely and get in and leave.
I get a couple texts from X "im sorry, i know how to pick em. Ive told him im not serioius. Guess I cant be friends with him at all" then another "ill replace your mirror, im so sorry" I decide not to reply. 20 minutes go by and I get "ur really not gonna talk to me? I was so happy about u coming in" I reply pretty promptly with "Weird is all I have to say, he will buy me a mirror, not you, Im sure he can get one cheap". He works at a local body shop so I am thinking to call that place and get an estimate for it in a professional way! LOL
When he left and we both was watching as he pulled out and got er sideways in the sleet and snow, I made the comment "ya, his name is on the wii???". New game and he has been over playing. So, guess no lunch or whatever with X for a while. Time to get back to family!
