<journaling> S5 decided to stay with xW again after S8 and finished with cub scouts. It doesn't make me particularly happy when xW convinces him to do that. But I don't want to come off as being "mean" to my S, and I know xW tries to exploit that.
The next day I picked both S's up from the MIL. She (the wicked MIL) mentioned that S5 had a bad day at pre-K, but had no details to offer. So I told her I would check my email for a message from the teachers to find out what happened.
This morning -- as if out of the blue -- I got this nasty-gram via email from xW. She says this:
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NCB
S8 continually tells me & Mom about all the things that make you angry. This tells us that he is experiencing an angry environment. I believe S5 is acting out because of this. PLEASE, try to keep your adult angst to yourself & not create bitter, angry kids.
Thank you, xW
This floors me -- where the F did that come from? I asked S8 about whether he has had any such conversation with his mother about me. He says he has not, but I get the feeling he's clamming up for her sake or something. So later I send her a response that basically tells her this:
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I think you need to explain a bit more about what you and your mother are actually discussing with our children. Because I see two things that are really going on here. (1) You are prying S8 and S5 for information, and (2) you and your mother are continuing to plant your own negative biases in their minds and to try to get them to accept your prejudices.
Those would be the two chief-most reasons for any "anger" you might think I harbor, and thus easily justifiable if true. But more so than anything else it makes me utterly sad for them that their own mother would do something like that to them.
You continue to disrespect me as a parent and as a human being at every opportunity and you still want to try to pin the blame for S8 and S5's lack of respect for others solely on me?
If you want to open an honest dialog with me about areas you think I might need improvement on in the raising of these two boys, then I strongly suggest you try to approach me with a little respect and courtesy, otherwise I can't take you seriously.
So, basically I am telling her to can these attacks if she's serious about addressing any concerns for our S's. I think part of this lastest missive stems from xW's guilt that S5 acted up right after the very night during my week he just happens to stay with her instead.
Personally, I suspect the wicked MIL is continuing to foment the discord between us -- not that xW needs her help to do so.
Oh, and this morning the evil MIL handed me a note from S5's teacher (explaining his poor behavior that day) that she had held onto the afternoon before and had "forgotten" to give to me. I said nothing, bit my tongue, but I could have spit fire at that point, I was so furious at her. xW's mother is pilfering my kids' bags and purposely withholding important information from me.
You know there's a "special" place for people like her in the afterlife. God forgive me if I can't muster enough sympathy for her d*mnable hide anymore.
