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Some food for thought for today:

Rick Warren: Release your fears at Christmas


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1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

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(((Trent)))

Originally Posted By: TrentC
It's interesting to note that there are 365 verses in the Bible that say, "Fear not." God provided us with one 'fear not' message for every day of the year! Do you think God is saying, "Get the message. Don't be afraid!"


I never knew this and I am so happy to have it pointed out to me...

I am going to have to take the time to put together those 365 verses and then print them out and keep them handy. smile


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(((Tulsa)))

Always nice to see someone new on my thread so welcome. smile

There is a welcome mat however I am no longer his doormat...

Based on the past 21 years, I know his MO -

He would most likely come home and want it swept under the rug.

Because of his MO, I am no longer that person....

I am new and improved...

I no longer want "that" marriage and I will not settle for 95% of him.

I am strong enough to hold my own and I no longer require him to satisfy my happiness...

Just because he decides that he wants to work it out and throws out an apology, doesn't mean he gets to walk right back through my door.

The damage & destruction that he has left behind can't be swept under the rug.

The day he walked out is the day I became in control of the situation, he just doesn't know it yet.


May All Who Seek To Take My Life
Be Put To Shame And Confusion;
May All Who Desire My Ruin
Be Turned Back In Disgrace.
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Originally Posted By: Serenity13

Just because he decides that he wants to work it out and throws out an apology, doesn't mean he gets to walk right back through my door.


Amen to that!


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Thank you for that Soleil smile


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May All Who Seek To Take My Life
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May All Who Desire My Ruin
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Oh, you are sounding good Serenity. How are you?

Yes, the first thing God says in many situations in the Bible is "Fear Not". Yet we fear. Someone once said to me, if you were in a cage with two lions and Jesus was in the cage with you and said Fear Not, would you fear? Probably. Even though he is IN THE CAGE next to you? Probably. Well, he is next to us all the time and still we fear. Fear is just a feeling. It passes.

My sitch seems to have taken a turn for the worst but I wlll try my best not to fear but to TRUST that God is leading me where I need to be. Honestly, I think it is more pain than fear that gets to me these days...

Just musing on your thread....


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Hi, Serenity. Just dropping by again smile.

Last few posts reminded me of something I heard in church last weekend. Sermon mentioned how joy is something that God wants for us - it's just whether we want it for ourselves. Even in the grim times of Zapaniah, there is an encouragement of this. People often talk of the Old Testament God and the New Testament one. It was pointed out they're the same God. There is no "angry" God, not the way people paint it. We do it because God gives us choices to make, and despite conscience, intelligence, and all our other gifts, we inevitably will make choices we know to be wrong. And thus, it makes it easier to blame a vengeful, demanding, angry God for the consequences rather than look in the mirror.

It has such similarities to the WAS / LBS dynamic it stuck in my mind.


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Originally Posted By: Deep
Hi, Serenity. Just dropping by again smile.

Last few posts reminded me of something I heard in church last weekend. Sermon mentioned how joy is something that God wants for us - it's just whether we want it for ourselves. Even in the grim times of Zapaniah, there is an encouragement of this. People often talk of the Old Testament God and the New Testament one. It was pointed out they're the same God. There is no "angry" God, not the way people paint it. We do it because God gives us choices to make, and despite conscience, intelligence, and all our other gifts, we inevitably will make choices we know to be wrong. And thus, it makes it easier to blame a vengeful, demanding, angry God for the consequences rather than look in the mirror.

It has such similarities to the WAS / LBS dynamic it stuck in my mind.


Interesting point. The difference between Old and New is that God provided a solution on how to get back to him. The "soulution" is a choice and journey we must walk.


ps 'soulution' was a typo, but I like it.


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Originally Posted By: Coach


ps 'soulution' was a typo, but I like it.


Love it! smile

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Hi Kara...

Muse away. smile

I am very well thank you for asking, and I hope the same for you.

The darker days are slowing becoming days filled with peace and smiles...

As long as I don't allow my mind to wander for the most part I am good.

The holidays are proving to be harder then I thought...

The fear isn't driving me like it used to but it still comes in waves and on those days, I just pray harder and allow myself to ride the wave out.


May All Who Seek To Take My Life
Be Put To Shame And Confusion;
May All Who Desire My Ruin
Be Turned Back In Disgrace.
~Psalm 40:14~
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