My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

no one would be in a relationship with a person who punched them on the 1st date
but
they don't smack you on the 1st date

they didn't treat us like we sucked on the 1st date

exactly. it crept up on us. then somehow we bought the ideology. we were like the Stanford Prison Experiment--we were impressionable and obedient, when presented with a legitimizing ideology (we're faulty) and social and institutional support (xH is a great guy, garrulous, a leader in his field, he's gotta be right). or maybe we were just like those frogs in the pot of boiling water. your choice.