After spending a couple hours filling out the forms for financial support and reading a divorce handbook for my state, I'm not so afraid of going ahead with it. Hopefully that's more detaching on my part. I've been told by a couple people that sometimes the WAH wakes up when they see how much they will be paying for a divorce. Geesh, like that'll make me feel good for him to come back to me because it's too expensive
divorce busting is only necessary if you don't WANT the divorce... So I mean that you can totally do whatever you want if you want to divorce! nothing to lose! As for the expense waking up WSs, it would be initial motivation to stop and think, not the 100% reason to divorce! AND DO NOT DO IT IF YOU DON'T WANT IT.
About your dad, hopefully the surgery means they get all the cancer out!! Best wishes for a smooth surgery and speedy recovery. (((daybyday)))
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
