There are a couple things that come into play here. She has full support of her family where she is living, so if she needs to have someone watch my son, they are pretty much at her beck and call. I am in a place where I have no family and only a couple close friends. I realize that I could use a daycare etc., which I would consider, until he is in school...see below.
The school thing - when he is in school there is no way that I would be able to have him for a week and her to have him for a week due to the distance. There is no way that it would work.
Believe me, I do not look at my son as an incovenience.....I KNOW he is a privelege and I look forward to every minute I have him.
You don't need to convince me, you need to convince yourself. Is your current job so important that you couldn't find a replacement job closer to the school he would go to? Is your job recession proof that you won't lose it tomorrow or next year? Are you afraid that you couldn't get another job doing what you and get paid a similar wage? Have you even tried to find out for sure?
Your reply started off with "There are a couple things that come into play here...."
When someone begins a reply with excuses as to why they can't do something, it just seems to be a pattern of behavior that has probably been a part of your life for quite some time.
I live close to my kids school which means I chose that location so no excuse there. I don't live close to work but I can work from home when I want to, if this wasn't an option, I'm sure daycare would be. Every excuse you come up with, try to come up with a way around it - you're not as limited as you choose to believe and most of the limits we have are usually self-imposed, food for thought.
