Kevin, you are the epitomy of the phrase "life happens while you're making plans" Your life is passing by every minute and you are still STUCK on this person that doesn't give you a second thought all day unless she needs something or you contact her for something meaningless.
Let go. Move on.
It's true. We dont know the future. But that doesnt mean you can't use logic to predict it. Scientist and other professionals do it every day. You can't hide your head in the sand from reality.
If only you could have truly detached and moved on with your life months ago. You might have already been back together with your WAW. Or better yet come to the conclusion that you deserve better now that you WORKED on YOURSELF. Oh well. We will never know.
I don't think I would have been back with her. And I don't think it would be better to be with someone else.
Maybe I can get my certification going and be better off in that area. That would be nice. And I do get tired of life passing me by without my W and kids in it every day anymore. But hey, I made a decision to get married and it is tough right now.
Kevin
Last edited by K4D; 12/16/0911:14 PM.
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I appreciate your concern Drew. I am my own worst enemy. I have a lot of trouble forcing myself to further finalize any of this. I keep wanting to wait and see and of course I have been waiting for a while. Things are starting to thaw with W and her family moreso than they have since this began.
It makes it tougher to proceed forward with separating the rest and moving on. It is a stuck feeling. And waiting does seem to mean that life is passing me by. And waiting is unattractive. But I am not just sitting at home doing nothing. I am involved with doing things for others and with others.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I am really hoping tonight goes well. Last night seemed to. But I don't know if MIL will be there and how that will affect things if she is. Maybe it won't have any affect at all. Don't know. Will find out though.
I will definitely play tonight cool. I will be there for D12 and sit where ever is available and then after tell D12 how proud I am of her and tell her and D7 that I love them and that I will see them Friday night.
Then I will probably head home and work out.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Looks like a busy day at work tomorrow. That will be good. Keep my mind off of things.
I am also thinking about putting my resume out there again tonight. I might go ahead and just do that.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
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Happy Holidays, sg
ahemmmmm... nudge ..nudge. You're the primest of candidates dude! lol
