IF they are so f'n miserable that they have HAD or are HAVING a PA/EA, whatever kind of A you can name..., then WHY HIDE IT!?!?!?! Why be afraid to be found out? Why lie? Why cover it up? If you're miserable, and you've found someone else, isn't that reason enough to be done w/the marriage and move the F on!?!?!!
great question mind...
and since I've been on both sides, I'll answer why for myself.
because I wanted it to be my H that was doing all the things the OM was doing.
also, because people are lost and confused. going to the other person doesn't really make them happy...it just gives them this temporary high. it's truly like a drug.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
