That is not an R. That is talking about the consequences of her Adultery and how it is affecting D13. The consequences of Adultery is not R talk. She needs to know what her selfish actions are doing to the people who love her.
This is her burden to deal with. Do not enable her adultery by hiding it from her or being wishy-washy on it.
She has to own up to her actions.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!