Not meaning to hijack this thread, but rob how can that even be manageable? I am in a sitch where she lives an hour+ away from me, which is approx 1.5 hours in the opposite direction from where I work. It would be so logistically difficult to get 50/50 custody.
The job I have could be (hoping) the last one I need in my life and is with a good company, so moving closer to where she lives is not really in the realm of possibilities.
Once he is of school age, it gets even worse for a 50/50 split.
Well right off the hop, you sound like someone who is used to making excuses.
So you're telling me that your wife is able to manage having the kids but you can't, I guess maybe because you're a man and she is a woman?
Have you ever heard of a woman who raises her kids, husband left her, without any support, and yet she manages to work, provide for them and herself, and perservere but apparently you are limited by geographical distance?
Listen when you have the kids, why does it matter how far away she lives? It's not like you have to bring them back to her house everyday? If you're sharing custody you would have them 50% of the time, probably a week and a weekend each - what is wrong with that? what makes that so impossible?
Stop making f!@#$%* excuses!
"Once he is of school age, it gets even worse for a 50/50 split"....
WHY does it get worse?
What am I missing here?
If the kids are in school for the day isn't that better? 6-7 hours where they are at school being supervised by teaching staff? Why would that be worse?
Excuses don't explain and explanations don't excuse.
Telling me anything different means you are trying to tell me that your wife can do something that you can't do and I refuse to believe that you're not capable of doing it.
Not having the intention, motivation, will or strength of character... maybe I might believe that.
You're a parent for crying out loud, why is this even up for debate - you just do what you need to do to make it work instead of making your kid seem like an inconvenience, you should look at them like they are a privilege and treat them accordingly!
That's all I'm willing to discuss on this, this is YOUR 2x4, it was made of spruce, enjoy it!
