Thanks for dropping by and for your advice! I liked your 12 steps especially #4.
One thing I didn't do was be unkind to others involved which BTW included OW. I even had a chance to talk to her as she answered my H cell phone. I had to bit my tongue, but I acted like she was just like anyone else. The only thing I did say was that H and I were probably not getting a D. And the reason I said this was she was being catty with me and acted like she was better than me. I was just stating a fact. She liked rubbing it in to me that H and her had animals together at her house. And then she said she heard I was selling the house and moving to town. I told no I wasn't.
OK I've been rambling on your thread!
Anyway, thanks for dropping by. I think you are one smart lady!