We need to go back and ask what did we learn after, "Some people see things as they are and ask, 'Why?' Others see things as they could be and ask, 'Why not?'
Can we answer the next question?
or have we deviated too far off the beaten path....
"maybe having a better career would be more attractive to my W since she does seem to put importance on that"
Anything you do JUST to impress her will backfire. She'll see right through it.
Good gawd man, do something for yourself!!!
It isn't just to impress her. It is to have a better future mainly. But I would think it would help with her as well feeling I am better able to provide than what I can right now.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
"I" don't want you to concede or do anything! Stop letting people control you. I was just making a freaking point.
I understand. I was just trying to not keep being in disagreement with you. I don't necessarily see it the way you did. But I can accept that you see it the way you do and maybe you are right. I can acknowledge that to.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
We need to go back and ask what did we learn after, "Some people see things as they are and ask, 'Why?' Others see things as they could be and ask, 'Why not?'
Can we answer the next question?
or have we deviated too far off the beaten path....
SM,
What would the next question be. "How can we?" after asking "why not?"?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Kevin, you are the epitomy of the phrase "life happens while you're making plans" Your life is passing by every minute and you are still STUCK on this person that doesn't give you a second thought all day unless she needs something or you contact her for something meaningless.
Let go. Move on.
It's true. We dont know the future. But that doesnt mean you can't use logic to predict it. Scientist and other professionals do it every day. You can't hide your head in the sand from reality.
If only you could have truly detached and moved on with your life months ago. You might have already been back together with your WAW. Or better yet come to the conclusion that you deserve better now that you WORKED on YOURSELF. Oh well. We will never know.
Oh and btw the way, thanks for congratulating me on my small court victory of possibly getting sole custody of my D4. Maybe you should stop focusing on yourself for a minute and start doing what you have been preaching.
No worries. Just making a point that believe it or not the world does not just revolve around Kevin and his problems.
Just pondering....but maybe the best medicine would be meeting a girl or two at a bar for uninhibited no strings attached rabbit sex.
1) I would still be left in the same situation after it is over. 2) I can't morally bring myself to do it.
Yes, I realize my W had no problem doing it. But I can't do that. On top of it, it would just be an empty relationship if one at all.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
