Doing nothing is so hard. I am almost LRTing because I choose very minimal contact with WAW.
Today I got the following text from WAW who resides on a different planet than I do: "I bought a christmas platter for both <S4's daycare provider> and <S7's Teacher> from the boys. Is that ok?"
WAW's text is a microcosm of lack of clear communication and differing expectations we have had for a long time.
First, why would I want to "team" with WAW to get any gifts for anyone? She moved out 5 weeks ago and her EA/PA is escalating each day.
Second, how disrespectful is it to do something without coordinating, then ask 'Is that OK?'?
Finally, I think what she really meant to ask was "Will you pay half the cost of these gifts for which you had no input?"
UGH. This reminds me of how WAW "told me" she was "not happy so many times" during our M.
During our M, my W was the one to do the "heavy lifting" about most gifts. How can she think this Christmas will be the same as past years?
My recollection is that during past years, I thanked her repeatedly for taking care of these gifts so I didn't have to do so.
Here was my response: "<WAW>, Christmas platters are very thoughtful gifts. I have chosen to send cards to them from our boys.<Me>" I put a coffee gift card in each card as well.
