Itemize everything she took. She can't leave you with nothing. Right now you've allowed her to take your kids, your furniture and your manhood all at the same time.
In terms of Christmas, she isn't "allowing" you to see the kids. She's giving you your God-given right to your own kids. As a matter of fact, I would come up with a half and half schedule, write it down and present it to her for custody.
Show her you aren't going to be pushed around any more.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.