Honestly my small (read as "big") problem with alot of the users on this forum and not just you in particular, is that we give you direction, sometimes extremely specific but you still have to question it, put your little touch on it because everyone's situation is so "unique" that what we offer as advice couldn't possibly work for your situations.
Hmmmm.... most of these situations involve a man and a woman, one of them is a walk away spouse, the other is the left behind spouse, sometimes an affair is involved, either EA, PA or possibly both.
You are seeking her approval when you texted her the way you did. Read what you texted and see how you are seeking her approval. Why are you asking if she is going?
Because you only react to her actions, you don't take a leadership role in your own life, you can't determine the course of your life's direction, you can't determine how your life will be lived, because it's always based on what she will do and that isn't masculine, manly, attractive or anything a woman would want.
If she texts you and asks if you are going to the attorney, tell her this "I'm already here, we were going to wait for you but I think you've wasted enough of my time so I'm proceeding as is, you can speak to the lawyer afterwards to get the details you require"
