IMO the problem is that you are trying to "show" her your actions. Just live your life and make your own decisions. Stand on your own two feet and don't rely on what I or others on here say.
You are the one that has to deal with the consequences not us. Write down what works (do more of them) and what doesn't (do less of these). It's that simple.
Stuck, I don't know what works with her. Nothing has worked to this point as far as bringing us to any kind of thinking about reconciliation. The only thing that has changed is she has been nicer over all for the majority of this month. Thats it. And I guess that is because I have been nice also to her and her family and not brought any type of R talk up in some time with her. I am a bit concerned that she may refile after New Years and after she has gotten another job. But I don't have a crystal ball to tell me for sure. She hasn't said anything about it in a while.
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Sometimes it seems like you're having the hardest time making the simplest actions. The co-dependency has shifted from your W to the board at times.
I at times do tend to get stuck on these boards when work is slow which it is this week. Also there just seems to be more interaction with W lately so I have been posting more about it. It is hard to decide to go through with a simple action sometimes because I worry about the outcome of that action if I go through with it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
