IMO the problem is that you are trying to "show" her your actions. Just live your life and make your own decisions. Stand on your own two feet and don't rely on what I or others on here say.
You are the one that has to deal with the consequences not us. Write down what works (do more of them) and what doesn't (do less of these). It's that simple.
Sometimes it seems like you're having the hardest time making the simplest actions. The co-dependency has shifted from your W to the board at times.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.