I will take all of this into consideration. I will work on using all of my own resources going forward and not asking W for anything.
The 401k is only about $800 which will be around $600 for early withdrawal penalty.
I have another one with a few thousand in it that I am thinking about putting towards getting my BA or PMP certification which I would hope would help further my career. I am thinking that one over.
So W will be over for Christmas morning as this was planned. I will have stocking stuffers for her like everyone else since she is planning on coming over that morning. Of course I did initiate the invite earlier on so that is my own doing and I am not going to back out of it now. But I won't extend an invite for Christmas eve dinner as I am not sure she would accept anyways.
I will really think on going ahead and finishing splitting the last 2 accounts that we are joint on.
Maybe the best thing I can do is completely separate everything, end all contact with W and move forward with her in the rearview mirror and see if in the future she comes back. I'm not sure this is the route that should take place, but I am thinking it over.
I think if I ended all contact, that would in affect kill any moments here and there of possible opportunities to shine in the coming future. I am not sure I should completely walk away, but maybe just not be W's crutch/safety net? Live independently and still keep moments that could shine and turn things around someday at some point? I don't really want to go the all or nothing route out of her life. Plus, how would that affect the kids? I am not sure that would be good on them either.
A lot to consider as Christmas draws closer.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
