Sorry to hear about all the drama your W is causing. It gets irritating when our WASs have a "holier than thou" attitude and is willing to be selfish above the needs of their own kids. My W was and is the same way.
When my W gets like that, I actually call her out on it like an adult speaking to a child. I don't get upset, I just tell her like it is.
My prayers are going out to you and your family.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.