Forward,
I don't think they choose their situation over us. I think that they believe a fantasy and when they actually pursue this fantasy they realize, "oops this is not what I wanted". By then it is too late and their pride stops them from returning to their families or they are so entrenched with other woman and her life.

The Ml'ers emotions supercede their logic, they simply don't think.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11