Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[MichelleLT]

She is doing this stuff because she is hurting/depressed. She is trying anything, moral, immoral, legal, rational, irrational, to make herself feel better. Some of it works temporarily, some of it doesn't. By not REACTING to her, but rather ACTING to deal with the situation, you are screwing up her "plan" and expectations.

3 1/2 yrs after the bomb, I still don't know why. I don't know if XH knows why either. I accepted a long time ago that I will probably never know.

Focus on you. Focus on the kids. That is what matters.

Ride out the waves. You will have the highs and lows, but you will come out all right.

I never got on ADs or anxiety meds. I was able to manage it with vitamins and herbal supplements. Wasn't sleeping well, so bought a herbal remedy called Sound Sleep, main ingredient in Valerian root, helped me get to sleep and stay asleep without the hangover effect of OTC sleeping meds like tylenol/advil PM. Was feeling drained all the time, so started taking adrenal and thyroid supplements (your adrenal glands and thyroid are how your body deals with stress, when the stress is prolonged they get worn out which can lead to severe depression). B-vitamin complex is also a really good one.

Since you don't want to do the meds while deployed, maybe you could pick up some supplements to take back with you. You can find them at any whole foods store, co-op, or online. Gaia herbs and Nature's Way are good brands.