H often accused me of having affairs and was very insecure due to my drinking. I have to walk a cautious line...trying not to allow him to get too threatened and also not isolating to keep him content. He would prefer no social contact at all...he's pretty much a loner, except for hanging out with family. I, on the otherhand, love people and social events, and being on the go! He at one point in our relationship did try to keep me isolated all the time and I allowed it, but then my drinking started again and got worse...I went out on binges that were a mixture of drinking and needing social contact. So, it's important for me to have friends and attend or host social gatherings that don't include alcohol....that way I still get my needs met for social contact. I guess I need to explain this to him...he gets so weird about me going and doing things...even if it is with sober friends.
