It IS appropriate to set a boundary when someone is emotionally & verbally abusive. It is NOT appropriate to be emotionally & verbally abusive because you "feel" that you can't please your spouse.
Question: how does one set up boundaries w/ regards to emotional and verbal abuse. For instance, let's say you've told them the behavior isn't acceptable yet it continues...?
Luv, DEFINITELY get some counseling for yourself. It will help you immensely. Call around today!