Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

While we're on the subject of OM killing himself off to her, I thought I'd throw this out there to say 'the fog' in my eyes has in fact lifted.

When we were talking about about OM still having even just the little inkling in her life he still does being a issue, she affirmed me that perhaps as much as a year ago, she realized he is not the type of man she wanted. He controlled her every move, restricted her, and was not at all about 'family' (standing in the way of XW and I communicating, dinners, etc).

So kind of the true definition of a OP (the complete opposite). She said, amongst many other reasons, was what she realized she gave up. I let her come and go without question (until the frequent coming home late or not at all obviously). I respected the fact she had a life along side our R. If she wanted to spend a night out with friends minus me, or a grils night, I was fine with it.

And when I reminded her of the fact I even let her go to Vegas, no questions asked other than are you/did you have fun, she lit up, almost to cry tears of happiness when I said, "do you know how many people said I was nuts for that?" and I replied them all 'It's not nuts when you TRUST someone'.

In that, I think she really really knows what it's like to have and then subsequently miss that trust, and do anything to regain it. I will say, she IS being very tranparent with me, which is a very good start.