The continuing saga of P ...

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I suspected this...it's why I never stay in touch with exes BUT since you have a D together, I totally see why you are in touch.

A friend suspects the same thing. I do keep telling her though that I am a big boy and will handle my own relationships. But she thinks D's mum is on the prowl. I'm not sure.

I have spoken to D's mum before about us getting back together. What I was trying to do is figure out what she is really thinking. If I am honest, I have thought about it more than once and I think anybody in my sitch would have done so too. It's natural. However I keep coming to the same conclusion - it wouldn't work. D's mum has changed and is the girl I first met just over 10 years ago. However she is not the one for me, that I know.

I think W has the same rule as you - don't keep in touch with exe's.

Do people see you with D's mum who know W? If so, when was last time they saw you together?

Yeah they have done. I have been in W's shop with D's mum. Don't think W saw us, although I could be wrong as I didn't actually check to see if she was there or not but she will have heard.

Jealousy does remind us that we have feelings for the other person. BUT it is a double edged sword as I feel it could cause the other person to retaliate with anger. Since you can't get a D for 2 years, there is little W could do in regard to ending your marriage legally, right?

The only grounds I have been told that W could get a divorce quickly is under 'unreasonable behavour' (the other is adultery but I haven't done anything so only I can file for that - that's my ace in the pack). My behaviour in the 5 weeks prior to W moving out was unreasonable, in a sense, but as even my lawyer says 'completely understandable as your W was leaving you'.

So I don't think she can file. I ain't giving in until I have a reason to so it's 2 years. 1 year if it's uncontested ...

So she gets ticked off and explodes, then time goes on. Her relationship with OM will end and then what? Sorry to ramble. I am not helping you to forget about W.

Newmama, what you say has no bearing on me forgetting about W I have that dilemma on my own shoulders!

W hates D's mum so much that I think it would be a huge stumbling block for her.

W and D's mum had a meeting some weeks ago that I posted on where D's mum offered her contact without me, then backed down when I hit the roof. Anyway, W did tell me that D's mum had said I had been 'crying on her shoulder for 6 weeks'. I confronted D's mum (as it was nonsense) and she said she never said that. W was fishing and trying to assure herself I was upset. She was also trying to see how friendly me and D's mum were I believe.

I know for a fact that W WAS jealous of D's mum as D's mum gave me what W didn't - a child (at least that's how a friend said it). However, that jealousy would probably send her into a rage and not a loving fight to get me back.

At this point, I don't care. I am friendly with D's mum. I am keeping it that way and if W doesn't like it and it stops her coming back, then tough basically. I was not the one who betrayed my spouse. I was not the one who lied, was deceitful and hurtful. So we will be trusting me on this one and not her