The continuing saga of P ...

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P, I can't help but be curious as to why your MIL has contacted you sooo often lately while your WW has stopped.

I agree with you newmama. As I said my gut just says it's strange, but forget it. Her mum is devious, that I do know. I also know she thinks I'm bi-polar (ahem), an idiot, other nasty words and I think she thinks I'm the same guy she last saw back in April. News flash ... I know her and I know me. I'm not the same guy.

I am "mind reading" but what if your WW really misses your D, told MIL about it, and so somehow gets to find out about D through MIL? Do you see where I'm going?

I do and it did cross my mind. The impression I get though is that D has cut all of us out of her life entirely (removing D as a friend on Bebo and pics) but then that may just be an emotional reaction at how hurt she feels and maybe she thought removing them would hurt me or help her move on. Don't know. I just don't think D actually cares at this point and won't until she comes down from her high.

Also, some time I would love to hear the story of you and D's mum...what happened there? How are you still friends?

This is the very short version. The full one would fill a book.

Met D's mum in November 1999. Moved in around December. She fell pregnant in the Aprilish. D was born in Jan 2001. I left in March 2001. I met W in August 2002. Got married in 2006. Moved here in 2006.

That's the dates out of the way.

D's mum and me were like a fuse waiting to be lit. It just never worked and never would. D was unplanned. I was depressed. Had no job. Lived 300 miles from my parents. Had no support network. D's mum went loo loo when she fell pregnant. Relationship plummeted.

7 years of fighting to see my D for stable access as it was cut off here, changed there and was fine elsewhere. Did want to give up several times and W talked me out of it (believe it or not).

8 years on Social Services got involved. I got regular stable contact. We met to mediation. D's mum admitted to using D as a pawn to get at me - I was stunned that she admitted it and things changed dramatically from then on. W left in August, D's mum has been a pillar of strength for me. I can't thank her enough.

Problem now is that I feel that D's mum may have feelings for me. At least she is a bit more clingy and is asking me to spend a lot of time with her. She is getting jealous when I got out to lunch without her. We are spending Xmas day together with the kids. Don't see me having an R with her, but if I did M would be over as W hates D's mum. The good news is that if I did have an R with D's mum, W would be so filled with anger and rage that she would just explode (a bit like the devil guy at the end of Time Bandits).

Me and D's mum never married (although I did ask her just before D was born).

That's the short version.