W's reaction follows many things I have learned on this site when it comes to contacting W of OM (in this case quasi-GF of OM but they have a kid together and live together).

W came home from work last night without her wedding ring on (she NEVER goes anywhere without it no - I can't remember her not wearing it in 20 yrs). She was running late and I have a feeling she was getting an update from OM about what I did. Even up to this point I still haven't told her I talked to GF - I assume she knows from OM.

This morning, I told her:

TDR: "I know you have been spending your lunch hours you stay in at work talking to OM"

W: "I can do what I want"

TDR: "No you can't while you live here if it has to do with OM. Are you going to explain to your kids why you don't wear your wedding ring anymore?"

W: "I can do what I want - who cares if I don't wear it. You didn't wear one in the past" <True I gained weight and for several years I quit wearing it but started again about 4 years ago>

TDR: "Did you know that OM had an affair on GF with his skydiving instructor?"

W: <no response>

TDR: "you need to leave if you continue to do what you have been doign with him. I have asked several times"

W: "If you don't like it you can leave"



About a half hour later I got the following text messages after I had left the house:

Quote:
I think I'll call him today to let him know u r constantly trying to get in his past and to apologize to him for what being friends has caused


I thought this was classic. She always call him a 'friend' and all this turmoil is just because she ahd a 'friend'. I laughed when I read this since it sounds so ridiculous.

Here are the other texts she sent at the same time:

"you know I don't give a rats ass about my friends past. obviously you do since you are constantly trying to dig up stuff"

"OM and I are friends and his past has nothing to do with me. dig all u want."

"Go ahead and make a mediator appointment so we can know our rights for separating"

She never says Divorce, only Separating. I need to inform her that the process is filing for Divorce as part of the beginning of the Mediation process, followed by negotiating a settlement.


Last edited by tryingtilDorR; 12/16/09 04:55 PM.
ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline