So lots of good progress on your end with S and H! That's exciting about S's potty training! I can't wait for that day. =P haha. Glad your car is ok, but too bad you had to deal with that. I hate car issues! But on the other hand, it did give H a chance to step up. I know he didn't come as quickly as you would have liked, but he did come and he was there for you when you needed him. As much as you wanted him to come right away, it does make since to try a few things first in case it was nothing. I know words are just words, but it's really awesome that he's saying that he wants to be your H and be there completely for you. It also gave you a chance to remind him of the boundaries you've set reagrding OW and coming home - he can't be there for you if OW is still in the picture. Good job!
Regarding the spying, I have to admit, I agree with you on this one. I know it's not good to overfoucs on that b/c it can tend to eat you alive, but on the other hand, with our H's lying pasts, you need to know whether they are being honest with you now, so that you can move forward with the M. I want to believe everything H tells me, but at this point, it would just be foolish. He needs to prove he can be trusted again, and unfortunately for them, trust is a hard thing to gain back.
Good luck tomorrow! Any further news on the trip or other anniversary plans?
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
